Right Brain Education Begins with Relationships First

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The Right Brain Kids motto is “hug, play, learn”. This is because they believe that before you can start teaching your child, you have to develop your relationship with your child first. This is very important especially for young children. Without first focusing on your relationship, your child’s ability to learn is compromised.

Relationships First

Sometimes parents will ask, “How can I let my child know that I love him?”

For a child, it is very simple. Attention is love. This always reminds me of that Simple Truths video: “To a Child, Love is spelled T-I-M-E

Time is attention and attention is love, therefore giving your child your time will let him know you love him.

If you want to build your relationship and strengthen your ties, spend time together:

  • Get to know your child’s thoughts, concerns, passions, friends.
  • Plan special activities together.
  • Let your child know that you care.

How to Really Love Your Child

Ross Campbell, author of “How to REALLY Love Your Child,” says:

Conveying love to a child can be broadly classified into four areas:

1. Eye contact
2. Focused attention
3. Physical contact
4. Discipline

Each area is just as crucial as the other. Overemphasize discipline, and you will lose your child. Touch, attention and eye contact are vital for bonding. Make a point to give all four daily, and you will raise a love-nourished child.

Ross Campbell

Positive Discipline

When we talk about discipline, it often brings to mind scolding and punishments. These are the negative sides of discipline. It is important to focus on positive discipline when correcting your child’s behaviours.

According to Dr. Jane Nelsen, family therapist and author of numerous books on positive discipline, there are 5 criteria when implementing Positive Discipline:

  1. Help children feel a sense of connection (Belonging and significance)
  2. Be mutually respectful and encouraging (Kind and firm at the same time)
  3. Is effective long-term (Considers what the child is thinking, feeling, learning, and deciding about himself and his world, and what to do in the future to survive or to thrive)
  4. Teach important social and life skills (Respect, concern for others, problem solving, and cooperation as well as the skills to contribute to the home, school or larger community)
  5. Invite children to discover how capable they are (Encourages the constructive use of personal power and autonomy)

More about Positive Discipline:

Filling the “Love Tank”

Children’s “love tanks” need refueling often. If their “tanks” are full, then they tend to listen well — to parenting, as well as to any form of right-brain learning! This reminds me of the Bucket Analogy that my son’s teacher uses at school. Here are a couple of ways to fill your child’s love tank ala right brain style:

  • Shichida’s 8 Second Hug
  • Shichida’s Echo Method – how to talk to your child
  • Shichida’s 6 Ways to Help Children Relax

Published by Shen-Li

SHEN-LI LEE is the author of “Brainchild: Secrets to Unlocking Your Child’s Potential”. She is also the founder of Figur8.net (a website on parenting, education, child development) and RightBrainChild.com (a website on Right Brain Education, cognitive development, and maximising potentials). In her spare time, she blogs on Forty, Fit & Fed, and Back to Basics.

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